We met for the first time on September 4, 2014 at a coffee shop in Vancouver called Café Deux Soleils.
I don’t think either of us knew quite what to expect. You knew that I was in a wheelchair and I knew that you were transgender. Those labels were both an obstacle in our dance to get to know each other better and also our peculiar common ground.
I took this photo almost exactly two years later, just after you moved in. We were still finding places to put your things and I came out one morning to find this perfect shaft of sunlight spread across your collection of espresso cups. After taking the photo, I looked up again to find that the ray of light had disappeared completely.
This is the essence of our relationship. I feel like had we blinked, had our fears led us to hesitate just a moment too long, we would’ve missed it.
At the start I wasn’t really sure where we were headed. Would you want to date a trans guy? Would I know how best to support you as a person with a disability? At the end of the day we were just two human beings trying to connect. We had some hiccups along the way, but in some ways I’m glad we did so early on. We worked through them and came out stronger.
There’s no one I’d rather face life’s challenges with than you. And no one I’d rather drink coffee with.
It Began With Coffee
12″ x 12″ photograph on canvas print – $100
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